by Dawn Weaver
My mom made sure I always knew my birth story.
Not in the way you might think, though I do know I was born in the morning and I know how average my weight was.
What really comes to mind when I think of my birth story though, is that there were two that came before me who never made it to birth.
You may think that’s too heavy of a subject for a small child, but if your story is like hers, please consider sharing it with your other children in a way that speaks life over and through them.
For example, tell your oldest that God knew how important it was for them to get all of mommy’s attention because he knew something important would fall through the cracks of his plan if the situation was different. Tell your adopted child or your foster child how important it was for them to join you and that God knew even when you didn’t. Or tell your rainbow baby, like me, that God knew just who needed to be added to the family and when. You may have an opportunity to completely sympathize with another woman who is experiencing the same pain, but even if that day never comes, use your pain now to speak purpose into your children.
My whole life I lived in my sister’s shadow; She’s just an extraordinary high-achieving human whose accomplishments tend to be very impressive and often published in very public places. She’s also a certified genius. That’s not a play on words, that’s true. There’s paperwork. But thanks to my mom doing that affirming act of love and being honest with me, I never knew it or felt like it. Even in adulthood I never feel less than to her, although I largely credit God with that one because thanks to him I never feel less than to anyone else either.
There are promises in the Bible we can stand on that attest to our uniqueness, so even when I got old enough for self-doubt to creep in, my Heavenly Father showed me that when I doubt myself I only have to lean on him to find rest and to feel restored. So speak God’s purpose over your children, even if you haven’t experienced a loss, you can still make their birth order and their timing a part of God’s plan so they grow up knowing what a masterpiece they are and where their identity comes from.
And if you don’t yet see yourself as one of God’s masterpieces, it is my prayer for you that you will ask him to show you just how much you mean to him and that you will let him wholly heal you of believing those thoughts that creep in and say you’re not enough.
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.